Why You Shouldn’t Worry If You’re Going Into College Alone

By Sarah Talty, 4th year Journalism and New Media

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There were roughly 1,200 students in my year at secondary school and only about 16 of us went to the University of Limerick.

None of my friends were going to UL and anybody I did vaguely know going to UL was commuting. Essentially I was starting over at UL alone. My dad reminded me that I was as nervous going into primary school where I knew nobody at all and I was fine. Then again he reminisced I was nervous going into secondary school alone too, when all of my other friends went to another all girls secondary school in town and I was fine. I reassured myself with the thought that I had made a lot of great friends on both occasions but it didn’t stop me from feeling any less nervous.

My poor mother. I was so incredibly nervous going to UL, to move into my new Plassey house full of strangers, that I did not speak to her the entire car journey. Any attempts at conversation were met with a tight-lipped grunt. She drove me into the car park in the middle of Plassey Village where my little house was located. Students were already walking around in pairs and groups and I felt utterly alone. I looked up at the windows of my house ablaze with light, indicating some of my housemates were already there. I had dropped off most of my things a few days ago with my parents and sister in tow. We met two other girls who were living with me who were lovely but also best friends from home. I knew they wouldn’t be down that night anyways, they had told me that. Suddenly I couldn’t talk to my mother enough, I just wanted to stay in that car

I need not have worried. I tentatively opened the door to my house and a tall boy appeared before me. He informed me he was one of my housemates and they were all going to Stables and I had to join them. No I couldn’t, I told him. I wasn’t really planning on going out with orientation the next day, I had nothing to drink or to wear, but my excuses fell on deaf ears and I was swept upstairs to my room. I met a new housemate, a girl this time, who promptly lent me shoes and swapped makeup tips. Some of my nerves dissolved as I was swept up into the giddy excitement at my first taste of proper freedom. My parents never would have allowed me to go out when I had something as important at orientation at 9am the next morning. But I was in college and all of my decisions, good and bad, were now my own.

Over the next few days, through housemates and orientation and nights out and meeting all the kind, interesting people in my course, I made lots of friends. Just like my dad knew I would.

Bottom line is please don’t worry if you’re going to college alone. Okay I won’t tell you not to worry because of course you will, just as I did. I will tell you just know that you will be fine and standing on your own two feet and starting fresh and having to lean how to make new friends just like you did when you were 5 and 12 is just as exciting and rewarding at 18. Hopefully you will make as an amazing and solid group of friends as I did and can count them as friends for years to come.

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Making friends at University

By Jane Vaughan

 Making friends at college was probably one of my biggest worries coming into to college. I was so nervous walking in by the flag poles on the day of orientation but looking back I need not have worried.

The key thing about making friends is in your orientation group, this group is filled with about 10/15 people who are all in your course, you spend the day being shown the campus together by your guide. I met some of my best friends on orientation day. After the day was finished we all exchanged numbers and decided on a place to meet on the following Monday, for our first day of college. We were all afraid of getting lost but once you’re in a group at least if you get lost, you all get lost together.

Being a part of two very popular subjects can make it had to find out who is actually is your course so me and two of my friends (from my orientation group) decided to make a Facebook group for our course and one by one we eventually began to know who was in our course. Year by year you get a lot more closer to those in your course.

Tutorial groups are also a very good way of making friends as a lot of the time you get put into even smaller groups for team work. You are meant to go to the same tutorial group every week so it’s no harm in befriending people so ye can all help each other out with readings and work.

If you are willing to make friends in college you will have no problem doing so as everyone else around you wants to do the same thing.

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Jane Vaughan is in her fourth year studying English and History at the University of Limerick. She is 22 and from Limerick. You can read her personal blog here  and follow her on Twitter at @_PaulaJane. Here she talks about making friends at UL.